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Brides to Be, Don’t Worry About The Ring!

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So your fiance popped the question! Congratulations! One of the first things you do when you get engaged is show of that sparkly new ring, but what if it’s not your style? What do you do?! You are going to be wearing this ring every day for the rest of your life, so why not be happy with it and be able to look at it and feel overjoyed instead of slightly bummed. You don’t want to live with the regret of not saying enough, the more you sit with this gut feeling the worse it’s going to get. Can you exchange your engagement ring? Awkward to even ask, right? We feel bad even thinking it, but at the same time don’t live the rest of your married life not being proud to show off your ring! Get something that shows your style. Hopefully you’re fiance will be an understanding guy and go with you and help you pick out something thats very “you” and that you can share with all your family and friends! What do you think? Is it ok to exchange your engagement ring for something more your style or should you just be happy with what you got?

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17 responses to “Brides to Be, Don’t Worry About The Ring!”

  1. Good question! I couldn’t imagine telling him that I wanted to exchange the ring so I hinted that:

    I really wanted to design my ring so we flip flopped my rings. My engagement ring was just a band that he picked out and then I custom designed ring “wedding band”.

  2. When my hubby and I got engaged, he admitted that he wished he could have afforded something bigger. It was my dream ring, but the centerstone wasn’t a full carat, as he had wanted. Instead, I opted for a smaller center stone because I wanted trillian sidestones. When he voiced his disappointment in it to me, I laughed and told him that if he had bought me the largest ring he could possibly afford, then he wouldn’t be able to upgrade it on our anniversary. From that moment on, I joked about my future 6 carat pear. 6 years and 2 kids later, I still prefer the first ring he gave me. To his credit, he did get me a 6 carat pear shaped white sapphire pendant for our first anniversary. If you really don’t like the ring, you should tell him. It shouldn’t be the very first thing you do- proposing is stressful and he’s already feeling anxiety. You need to wait for the right time. Perhaps when you’re shopping for the wedding bands, you could point out some elements you would have preferred in your engagement ring. You don’t have to wear a ring you don’t love for the rest of your life, but you definitely don’t want to be ungrateful as he probably put a great deal of time and consideration into choosing the ring he would present you with, even if he didn’t get it quite right.

  5. I went shopping with my fiance because of this! I have a very unique style and really wanted a one of a kind ring, luckily we found the exact one I was thinking of, a vintage style emerald cut ruby in yellow gold! I’m always excited to show it off!

  7. I wasn’t quite sure about my ring when I first got it. It fit everything that I wanted in a ring. But, it looked somewhat small on my finger (even with a full carat center stone). But, we designed my wedding band together and seeing everything as a set, it is absolutely perfect. I would say to wait until you go band shopping to truly make up your mind. A band, and in my case one on either side, really changes everything.

  10. No I definitely do not think it’s ok! I would assume that a guy has really thought about this, saved for it and planned for it. To ask for something different, in my opinion, would be a slap in the face. Even though it may not exactly be what you had in mind, after all, it’s a rock. You’re not marrying a rock, you’re marry the man.

  11. @weddingPR as a husband I believe in “happy wife,happy life” let her get what she wants.Lucky for me I had good taste and she loved it! 🙂

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